Breaking habits to build self confidence.

It is difficult to tell where we are going wrong in life sometimes due to the fast pace of the world and our lives.Have you felt unhappy even when you have some of the traits of a normal life such as a job, a home, a relationship and so on. These feeling are because fulfilment is different for everyone. What I mean by that is just because you have reached a ‘normal’ level in life it does not necessarily mean you are going to be content.

So how can we change these feelings? How do we get ourselves out of that loop of despair we find ourselves in from time to time. We need to look at our emotions. Emotions start in the mind and the curious thing about emotions is that unlike most thoughts we can actually feel them physically. Anger, happiness, anxiety and confidence all produce real bodily sensations that we can sense. If we get into a habit of noticing when these emotions are going to surface we will be able minimize the impact the emotions have on our well being.

Let us think about this concept of habit a bit more closely.Habit is our subconscious mind automatically controlling same of our activities, done most of the time without conscious thought. There are minor habits such as nail biting, to the extreme habits that begin to take the form of OCD. But you may be surprised to know that in our day to day lives and the way we act are due to established habits.

These habits are what form our personality, which in essence is what we are. It would be very confusing if we kept changing them all the time. One of the floors of mankind is people thinking that they are unchangeable, thinking ‘I have always been like this I can’t change’, when if they looked deeper they would find the really course for change. Which means we look to change our circumstances without looking at the true cause of our situation – ourselves! Specifically the way we think.

If we can identify these habits and how they make us interact with the world around us, we will be able to make small changes to them. Learning to control the habits that are affecting our mental wellbeing and holding us back, will help us develop socially while only making a little difference to our personality.

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